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How are You?

Anicetix — Sat, 24 Mar 2012 15:01:16 GMT

Hi, how are you?

This is the usual question that we hear every time we meet a person. And so many times the answer is not pleasing at all. But out of habit, and because we were taught that this is what we should do, we begin to tell all the problems, all the struggle and all the injustice that is around us. Just sometimes we limit ourself to a short "I'm fine." and add a polite "You?", which is a tricky question that can bring to us other people's problems that we would better not know.

Hi, how you would like to be?

It's a question that we should ask ourself more often. Instead of focusing on the current situation and fighting it start moving toward the state that you want to have.

Why to live?..

Anicetix — Sat, 11 Feb 2012 12:38:48 GMT

   So, you are here because you think that you need some motivation? Can you tell me why do you think that you need it?
   You think that you are stuck? You think that you are moving just nowhere? You feel apathy and just don't want to do anything?

   You want to know what to do?

   At first you have to understand why things are how they are at this moment. Do you like to do what you are doing? Do you know why you are doing it? Do you want to do it?
   Do you know what you really want? Do you?
   You want to be of value. You want to have an impact on this world. You want to have influence upon others. You want to be the master of your life. You want to be free. You want to live joyously. You want to be eager for more.
   So, what to do?
   You have to find a purpose. You have to choose a dream. You have to define your goal. It should be something worth your life. It should be something greater than anyone and anything that exists right now. It should be something worth waking up early in the morning. It should be something worth staying awake late at night. It should be something worth overcoming every scary thought that is crossing in your mind. It should be something worth pushing yourself further.
   Find your purpose and focus upon it your undivided attention.

   Find something worth giving your life and then you will start to live.

Change

Anicetix — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 07:44:16 GMT

   How do I change? How can I change something that I don't like anymore?
   I think, at first, I have to understand what I don't like and why I don't like it. This should be easy to do.
   On the second part, I have to define precisely what I do want and why I want it. How does it make me feel? What it is like?
   At this moment it is important to understand that everything is just a thought. Even all our biography and life story is just a series of thoughts. The interesting thing is that we are so accustomed to these thoughts that we don't want to let them go. It is also because we are just not ready to let the new ideas to become a part of our life. We have to make them familiar to us. This is why it is good to play with questions like what and why. You have to understand why you are making this change.
   Change is a easy thing to do. It's like switching tools: which one is most appropriate to use right now? It's like changing clothes: which one suits me best right now? The only thing I have to do is to define my intentions and to pick up the right tool.

A New Year!!! What for?..

Anicetix — Sat, 31 Dec 2011 02:28:24 GMT

   This looks to be my last post in this year. A year full of projects and wishes. A year full of new desires. A year that brought to me more understanding.
   Now I understand that it's not enough just to wish something. You have to do something for your wish to become real.
   Now I understand that it's not enough to set goals and make a plan. You have to follow your plan and to be flexible enough to change it as the situation changes.
   Now I understand that I have to know what I want. If you don't know, somebody else will tell you what you should want.
   Now I understand that opinion of others have very little to do with my real needs and desires. And even though I understand that people want for me only the best, I am the only person in the world that can tell for sure what is best for me.
   Now I understand that I have to know what I want to do. If I don't, somebody else will ask me to do something that will serve me nothing.
   Now I understand that I don't owe anything to anybody, and nobody owes me nothing. And if I really want to help somebody I have to remember what my desires are and to check if the request for help meets them.
   Now I understand that I have just a certain amount of time. If I don't decide what to do with it somebody else will do.
   Now I understand that I have around me many things that distract my attention. If I don't keep my focus on things that I really want, there is a great chance that I would never achieve them.
   Now I understand that I am the creator of my life. It's my choice to create it as I want or to let others to mold it as they want.
   Now I understand that I have in my life much stuff that I don't need. It is time to let them go and keep only the things that I really need.

   It is time to decide what I want.
   It is time to set up my intentions for the following year.
   It is time to decide what I want to accomplish. It is time do decide what I want to do. It is time do decide what I want to have. It is time to decide how my life is going to look like. It is time to decide what kind of person I want to be.

It is time to let all dreams come true.

Way too much...

Anicetix — Sat, 24 Dec 2011 19:43:01 GMT

   I have so many things to learn, I have to many books to read, I have so many things to do... I'm overwhelmed by all this, and I feel frustration because it seems that I would never finish it.
   From what to start? Where to go? What to do?
   I think at first I have to remember why I wanted to read all these books and to learn all those things. Which was my intention? What I wanted to accomplish? Why I wanted to accomplish it? What I wanted to know? What I wanted to become?
   Now I see that all my requests are answered, that all my needs are met, that all the resources that I need are coming to me. It is amazing how much information attracts one simple desire to know more. And I want to know so much that at this time in my life I am overwhelmed by the abundance of information that is available to me.
   What should I do?
   I think at first I have to decide which are my intentions now. What I want to do now? What I want to know now? What I want to read now? What I want to accomplish now? What I want to become at this time in my life?
   I have to set my priorities. I have to decide what is important for me now and to let all the other things aside. I have to be sincere with myself and think if things that I am doing right now are really necessary. Do I need to do them now? Do I need them? Is this what I really want? I have to decide which action will produce a positive impact that will help me to move toward things that I desire.
   I have to sharpen my skills. I have to use more efficiently the time and energy that I have available. I have to find ways to gain more time and energy. I have to find powerful ways for reading and learning. I have to become more efficient.
   I have to find some order in the way I will learn. I have to make a schedule. I have to organize everything. I have to follow my plan.
   I have to focus my complete attention on the things that are important to me now and to remember the reason why I want them so much.

15 Virtues to Live By

Anicetix — Sat, 17 Dec 2011 17:45:18 GMT

1. Temperance: eat no dullness, drink not to elevation.
2. Silence: speak only what may benefit to others or to yourself, and avoid trifling conversations.
3. Order: let all your thing to have their place, let every part of your business to have its time.
4. Resolution: resolve to perform what you ought, perform with success what you resolve.
5. Frugality: make no expense but to do good to others or yourself, waste nothing.
6. Industry: lose no time, be always employed in something useful, cut off all unnecessary actions.
7. Sincerity: use no hurtful deceit, think innocently and justly, and, if you speak, speak accordingly.
8. Justice: wrong none by doing injuries, serve people well, and do your job at your best.
9. Moderation: avoid extremes, take only as much as you need, forbear resenting injuries.
10. Cleanliness: tolerate no dirt in body, clothes, habitation, habits, thoughts.
11. Tranquility: be calm when you meet trifles or common/unavoidable accidents.
12. Chastity: use venery rarely, only for health or for offspring, and never to dullness, weakness or the injury of your own or another’s peace or reputation.
13. Humility: know your greatness, and acknowledge the greatness of others.
14. Curiosity: find things to discover and wonder at.
15. Flexibility: learn from the experiences that you and others have and develop appropriate reaction to them.

About Death

Anicetix — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 19:54:50 GMT

   Are you afraid of death? Are you afraid that someday you will cease to exist? Do you avoid to think about death? Do you distract yourself from the thought that you are not going to live eternally on this Earth?
   We have not so much control over how much we are going to live. But we are responsible for the way we live. We are responsible for our thought, for our words, for our actions. We are responsible for the attitude we have toward various things. We are responsible for the things we do. We are responsible for the way we do the things we do.
   We are dying a little every day. We are dying when we forget to be kind to people around us. We are dying when we are completely unsatisfied with things we see around us. We are dying when we are absolutely unsatisfied about ourself. We die a little when we let fear to control our life. We die a little when we are jealous toward anything. We die a little when anger is taking control over us. We die a little when we blame everything and everyone. We die a little when we think that something is impossible. We die a little when we doubt ourself. We die a little when evade from reality in our own imaginary world. We die a little when we let others decide for us. We die a little when we forget who we really are. We die a little when we forget why we are here. We die little by little when we let life to pass on autopilot.
   Let joy to come into your life. Let yourself to play. Let life to flow freely through you. Let yourself to be your real self and not the self you created in your mind for yourself and for those around you. Start asking again. Start asking yourself what you want. Start asking yourself what you want from others. Start asking yourself what people you want to come into your life. Start asking yourself what experiences you want to share with other people. Start asking yourself what life you want to live. Start asking yourself what reality you want to share with others. Start asking yourself what you want to do. Start asking yourself what you are doing. Start asking yourself why you are doing what you are doing.
   We truly live only in those moments when we are feeling truly alive, fully conscious of who we are and where we are and what we are doing. We are truly alive only when we are happy just for the reason that we live.

What Can I Do?

Anicetix — Sat, 03 Dec 2011 16:53:05 GMT

   You already understand that you live in a world of fake smiles and simulated lifes, in a world where people from the crowd tell you what to do even if their life is full of misery. It's a strange world where you have to meet countless standarts just to live an ordinary life. You have to spend huge amounts of time and energy to be merely normal. Everybody tells you what to do, where to go, what to buy, what to say, how to think, how to dress, how to behave. Every aspect of your life is already decided by people that you don't even know. In this system the only thing you have to do is to obey and follow.
   You have to follow rules that are constantly changing. You have to meet requirements that have nothing to do with who you really are. You have to obey to an authority that knows everything better than you do. And you have no right to ask questions. Your role is to be a part of the system.
   So, what can you do in such situation? What can you do if you are a part of the system but you are not happy to be a part of the system? At first, you have to understand why this system exists. Here are countless systems that you are a part of. You have to understand why it is here for. You have to look beyond what is. You have to understand the positive intention that created this system.
   Now you have some clarity. Now you understand a little better what is happening. You are still a part of the system, but now you have awareness of the things arround you. You are not anymore like a fish on the shore that is just reacting at what is. Now you can consciously act because you understand what is happening. You don't have to fight with shadows anymore. Now you know that shadow is here because of the light behind you.
   Even if you understand things better, you still are not happy to be a part of this system. You want to turn lights on or off by yourself. But you are alone against a big world? What can you do? What can you change? If you want to destroy the system, you can't. If you want to change the system, you can't. If you want to change the people arround you, you can't. So what you can really do? You can change yourself. You can be a part of the system, follow it rules, and create some rules of your own. If you want, you are able to create your own system and let people follow you. But all the change have to begin from you. You have to change your thinking, you have to change your attitude, you have to change your habits. You have to become the kind of people you want to see arround you.

What Way to Choose?

Anicetix — Sat, 26 Nov 2011 19:27:32 GMT

   So many times in our life we have to choose where to go. We have to decide what to do next. We have to make the next move.
   What path should we choose? What should we do next? Who can tell you?
   Human beings have a powerful intellect that they can use to gain, store and analyze information. It's an useful tool. But as any other tool, we have to know when and how to use it. You have to remember that you also have intuition, that inner feeling that tells you the right answer without giving any proof. This is the reason why intellect is believed so much: it can provide many proofs.
   Not so many people are able to listen carefully and trust their intuition. It means that you have no control over what is happening and you are at the mercy of the circumstances. But even when you have all the proofs and all the data and all the guarantees, you still are at the mercy of the circumstances. The only difference is that you have some feeling of security.
   If you want to choose a fulfilling way that is full of joy and pleasant moments at first you have to set up your intentions. Since you already have seen a lot of things and have certain preferences this would be easy to do. What you want? What you want to do? What you want to learn? What you want to experience? What you want to share? What you want to get? How it feels? How it's like to be there? How are people arround? How are you? How you and those arround you behave?
   At first, decide clearly what you want. Now let the intellect do it's job. Get the information. Store it. Analyze it. Look at odds. At this time in your mind may get some fear, some doubt, some worry. It's ok, since this is what mind is good at.
   Now you have to remember which are your intentions. Remember what you want. Remember what you are dreaming of. Now look at your options and listen closely to your mind and, more important, to your inner feelings. There may not be a perfect matching option, but there should be one very close to it. Your soul feels that this is "it", and mind admits that "this would be fun". At this moment many people look at odds. They prefer to choose something that certainly "will work". You have to understand that anything will work if you put soul in it. Choose the way that is a match to your soul.

Learning and Teaching

Anicetix — Sat, 19 Nov 2011 14:56:42 GMT

   It is interesting how our desire for learning and knowledge is met by our schools and universities. Actual Educational System fails to grow excellent people even though here are so many people that do really want to know more. Average result is an average person with average education that have average desires and produces average results so that he can live an average life. Instead of moving toward excellence this system is focused on mass production. This is easy to understand if we remember why this system appeared: to produce qualified workers for industry. This happened a couple of hundreds of years ago. This system is outdated, but we keep using it.
   We keep putting a bunch of kids to stay at their desks and listening what teacher is saying. They have to read and remember things from textbooks and retell them to the teacher. Also they have to obey the teacher and do everything he is saying.
   In their desire for better results teachers put more pressure on kids. They ask them at lessons, give tests to see what they know and try to influence their behavior by giving marks. High marks for accurate results and low marks for poor results. Tests itself are a great tool for development. As any other tool, we have to know how to use it.
   Main reason why we have to take tests is to see how well we know something. So first thing teachers should do is to find efficient strategies for teaching. By using such strategy any student can achieve great results. I know this for sure because every person is able to achieve great results. Maybe in different areas, but all people can achieve great results. Do you judge an ostrich by it’s ability to fly? Never. So we should think about each other. And the great art of a teacher is to develop the best abilities of his students.
   Old way of teaching is helping us to train our memory so well that we can remember entire textbooks long enough to pass examinations. It helps us to use old patterns in the same way. It puts in our mind tons of information that apparently have no connection. It teaches us to fear mistakes. The last one is maybe one of the most counter-productive thing that we can learn from school. I know, nobody likes mistakes, but we have to understand that mistakes are showing us that we don’t know something well enough. When a good teacher see that his student have made a mistake, he should kindly ask. He should kindly ask questions that will help that child to find out for himself the right answer. He should ask and ask and ask. All people make mistakes when they are confused. Many relevant questions will bring clarity and the right answer will come out.
   But teachers have to have patience. They have to leg go the mistakes that are made in the process of learning. They have to let the kids to express themselves at their best, and guide them by giving questions so that they can learn to give the complete answer. However, understanding of a matter is more important than remembering of textbook definitions.
   In my vision a great classroom is more like a discussion forum (except test periods). It’s about giving basic explanations and starting endless discussions with tons of questions and various answers. It is about explaining concepts and letting details to follow. It is more about using what you know than knowing what you use. It’s about playing with different stuff and choosing the best. It’s about having fun with boring stuff. It’s about letting textbooks at home and waiting with enthusiasm the lesson to begin. It’s about stimulating student’s curiosity and desire for knowledge so much that the first thing he do when he comes home is to open the book and hungrily search for the all the answers that he wants. By doing this an average person can learn any subject in three months (or even less).
   pS: The most important thing is to not make a big deal out of all this. Accept it as it is now and expect the best to come. And let the mistakes to be a great part of a process called learning, so that teaching can be the guide through this process.

About Fear

Anicetix — Sat, 12 Nov 2011 17:39:37 GMT

   Today I want to talk about the most distructive and counter-productive emotion that we can feel: fear.

   We think about it as a natural reaction to something. But in truth it is our reaction to something that have not happened yet. It's like anxiety: worrying that you will become fat even though you haven't ordered the pizza yet. In truth, it's just a game of mind. You play those mind movies and prepare for the outcome and thinking that if you will be ready then you can fight it.

   And this preparation is leading us to taking wrong decisions. We are afraid to face how our body is looking, so that we become apathic and avoid to see what is really happening. We are afraid that nothing will work, so that we do nothing to make it work. We are afraid that somebody can influence our life in a way that we don't want to experience, and we forget to live our life fully and freely.

   You have to understand that fear serves you very little. In fact, because of fear you are loosing more than you could possibly get. Fear is helping you to keep you in your comfort zone a little more, but it is not solving the issue. You may take some action because of fear, but that action would be just a temporary solution: after you solve one problem, there will come out another one, and another, and another... until everything will become one big problem which you will call a life of misery. And because of the trees you won't be able to see the forest. Only when you will look at your life at a larger scale you will be able to undestant what is really happening.

   When you are afraid, it's like you are in a labyrinth: you can't see nothing except huge walls arround you and a small path in front of you. Sometimes you will be able to turn to left or right and this will make you think that you are in control of everything, but you don't know where that path is leading to. And you walk arround thinking where to go next. But because of so many decisions and immediate actions you forget why you are here: you want to find something inside or just to go out?

   You have to remember why are you here. You have to remember where you want to go. You have to remeber that it is your birthright to be there where you want to be.

And now, let the walls to drop. Step over them with faith. Now you are free to go.

Always Learn

Anicetix — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 15:53:55 GMT

It is a part of your life. Believe me or not, but you are always learning something. And it is good when you are the one that chooses what to learn. This is the best thing you could ever do.

It should be something that you would enjoy, or something that you know would be useful for you.
You can learn a new skill, a new recipe. Maybe you want to sing, or draw, or cook. Try it. Play with it. Have some fun. You can memorize some tips. You can learn a few facts. And it doesn’t matter what it is about. Just let it become a part of you. You can play a crossword. You can play on the field. You can even play on your PC. But always learn something from those games. There is more wisdom than you ever imagined.

Remember how easily you learned when you was a kid. You can’t? That’s right.
It is so because you never "learned”. You always played. And because of that everything came so easily and naturally.

Take it easy. Set up your intention, and start doing something. Don’t judge or criticize. Just play with it. And while you are playing, let it be fun. If something doesn’t work, just try to do it in another way. If you think you can’t do it, ask for some help. But believe me, you can do more than you can imagine.

It can be PC games, workbooks, relationships… Every situation in you life is a lesson for you. It is your choice to learn from it or to ignore it. But keep in mind that life is a very persistent teacher, and it can give you the same lesson until you get it.

Try to always be properly prepared. Life gives a second chance, but experience of making it from first try is amazing. Mastery is not about talent, but about work that develops that talent. Master is the one that can do the job better than anybody else, and it is so because he is always overdoing it. Master always put value in his work.

Learn from everything. Learn from every experience. Learn from every person that you meet. At least get an idea from every book you put your hands on. And always keep your hands on some books.

Enjoy Every Moment

Anicetix — Fri, 21 Oct 2011 18:03:56 GMT

All your life is just a series of moments that follow each other. Here are pleasant ones that make your heart sing, and others that you would like to avoid. All of them are very important for you.

Best part is that you are the one that can choose what moments to let come in you life. You can magnify good moments by focusing on them. You can attract good moments by expecting good moments to come to you.

What about bad moments? Appreciate them. Say "thank you” to them, because they are here to help you. Bad moments help you to set up your preferences. You understand that you don’t like that, but you would like that. And when you understand that, let go bad moment and forget about it. Now your job is to look for that good moment that you now know that you will enjoy.

Every day of your life is full of tiny segments when you just do some stuff. It may be reading, watching, or just chatting. You may not control all the things that will happen, but you can control your expectations. What you expect to happent on that moment that comes next? What you want to get from it? Put that in your mind before you start doing something, and enjoy the experience.

About Goals

Anicetix — Sun, 16 Oct 2011 16:15:23 GMT

Everybody have some goals. Big or small, important or not so much, everyone have some of them. And everybody tries to do something about them.

Sometimes we try so hard that we feel overwhelmed. It looks that we just do not move forward. It feels like we have no power.

Believe me or not, but you have more power than you ever can imagine. Even since you was a kid that power bursts out of you and helps you. That power helped you to learn to walk. As easy and naturally as it seem, this is such a complex thing to do. Huge laboratories, years of research and hours of hard work create robots that just imitate our walk. And you figured out how to walk just by yourself. You did it in a very short time. And you can do much more than just walking in two steps.

At that time you had the desire. You had this intention. You have seen that others can do it, and you wanted to do it too. And then you started to do your first attempts. Day by day, attempt by attempt, fall by fall, you moved forward. Did those falls hurt? Of course they did. But that was not a reason to stop. That was an opportunity to learn what works and what doesn’t. Your persistence helped you to finally achieve that. You did it.

Our goals are dreams, often with deadlines. And very often the way to our goals is not so pleasant as we would like it to be. This all creates so much frustration, so much doubt, so much worry. Very often it scares us. But the way is not to be feared, but to be enjoyed and appreciated. This way should be appreciated because it helps us to learn what works and what doesn’t. It teaches us. And that is good.

In every experience it is not so important experience itself, but the conclusion you gained from it. It is the wisdom you achieved. It is relief that you feel when you understant it’s true purpose.

Many things happen in the way to our dreams, and that is good. Because it helps us to feel appreciation when everything is going so well. Bad experiences are signals that there is a better way. And when you find out that better way, think just about it. Appreciate bad experience for knowledge it gave you, and let it go. You don’t need it anymore. It’s purpose is accomplished now. You don’t need to remind yourself about it. Now you have to focus on the better way. Now you have to focus on the better experiences. Now you have to focus on the better feelings.

Everybody have some goals. But why do we have them? This little detail makes goals something personal. Your reason for having it is the only thing in the World that can make you move mountains. It is the only thing that can make your heart sing when it is only despair arround. Remember why you wanted something in the very beginning. Remember it when everything is just going wrong. Remember it when everything is just dropping out of your hands. Let the dream of getting it done come true. And never try to do it perfect. It just is not possible. The only thing you can do is to do the best you can do.

Let your goals lighten the way toward them.

Be Grateful

Anicetix — Sat, 15 Oct 2011 14:09:10 GMT

Be grateful for every day that you live.
Be grateful for every experience that you have.
Be grateful for every person that you meet.
Be grateful for every thing that you already have.

It doesn’t matter if it is good or bad. It is just as it is. Only thing that you can control is the way you feel about it. And it feels good when you are grateful for it.

Because every day is a gift that gives you a chance to change something, to do something different.
Because every experience teaches you something, and makes you stronger.
Because every person is here to help you in one way or another.
Because the only thing that really matters is your own life.

Welcome the Sunrise

Anicetix — Fri, 14 Oct 2011 18:35:40 GMT

It is good to start your day early. It is good because it means that you have more time to do what you like. And in this world are many things that you would like to do. In this world are many things that you still have to discover. In this world are many things to play with. In this world are many things you can achieve. You would feel joy and pleasure in the process. And this is good.

This world is full of wonders. This world is full of posibilities. This world is full of opportunities. This world is full of love. This world can give you everything you want. Just be ready to accept it.

Welcome every day in your life. Give it the chance to become the best day in your life.